Saturday, September 22, 2007

New Jersey

The longer we're here the more odd & new things we notice about New Jersey, the people here, and the way they do things. Here is a list of the peculiarities we've noticed.

- There are Dunkin' Donut franchises everywhere! There are 3 that I can think of within 2 miles of our house. They sell more than just donuts... such as breakfast sandwiches and every variety of coffee you can think of but I still don't understand the donut obsession. If you drive by on a weekday morning there are usually cars backed up into the street waiting for the drive-thru.

- Diners are everywhere too, and that's just what they call them. The only signage on the one near our house just says 'Diner', not Jim's Diner, or Joe's Diner, just Diner. Another one is the 'New Jersey Diner'.....I guess we'll just have to try out one of these diners sooner or later and see what it's all about.

- You cannot buy any alcohol, including beer and wine, in any grocery store. You need to go to a liquor store for that. Many restaurants do not have a liquor license although if you'd like a beer with your dinner you can bring your own. Restaurants will post BYOB somewhere on the window or door. Nick & I really wanted a good margarita so we went to this mexican food restaurant in Red Bank. The waitress brought them out and they were alcohol free but she suggested going across the street to the liquor store and buying a bottle of tequila and mixing our own. So that's what we did. It felt a little odd pulling out a bottle of tequila from a paper bag at the dinner table but she assured us that customers do it all the time.

- Don't ever tell anyone around here that you went to the beach. Actually, don't ever say the word beach. Here you go 'down the shore' and the locals are quite particular about that phrase. Also, you can expect to pay anywhere from $3.00 - $10.00 to step foot on any beach.

- The main highway that is near our house is called the Garden State Parkway. It's a toll road but there doesn't seem to be any rhyme or reason to the distances between toll booths and how much you pay. One toll is 70¢ and then the next one 20 miles away is 25¢, then 35¢, and so on. There aren't even people in the toll booths, it's just a basket that you throw your change into. I am tempted to just drive right on through without paying one of these days but then again I might find the mafia on my doorstep.

- Almost all roads have a name AND a number. Just to get to the grocery store which is only a mile away I need to take 13A to 520 to 35. And don't confuse 33 from 34 from 35 from 36 because they each go a different way and are also all near our house. Also, I haven't found a straight road here yet. Each one seems to twist and turn and if you stay on it long enough you'll end up where you started. And by the time you make it back there you'll find a new Dunkin' Donuts on the corner.

- If you need to turn left at the light you will almost always need to be in the right lane. They have many "jughandles" which circle you around in the direction you need. Oh, and if you miss your turn you're pretty much screwed. You'll have to find the next jughandle which could be a ways up the road.

- One would expect any metro area such as this to have a paramedic staffed ambulance nearby. Well, we don't. We live in a volunteer EMS area and whenever there is a need for the ambulance you'll hear an air raid siren that signals the local EMT's to respond to the ambulance. This is common in rural areas but I was surprised being as populated as we are that that is how its done here.

- New Jersey is a small state. Very small. And very populated considering there are 8.7 million people living here. If it were a puzzle piece, you could fit 21 New Jersey's in California. 4 Ada County's in Idaho equal the size of New Jersey. 31 New Jersey's would fit in Montana. New Jersey has 21 counties, the smallest is Hudson County which is the same size as San Francisco. With all of that being said, you would expect that native New Jerseyan's would know the direction, distance, and wherabouts of other cities and towns in their state but have found quite the opposite. Someone who lives in the next town over actually asked me if Tinton Falls was very far and how long would it take to drive. (It's 5 miles away)

- There are lawn & yard 'police' here. If your lawn gets to scraggly and long you'll get a ticket and fine from the Dept of Public Works. Luckily this hasn't happened to us thanks to Steve, the guy who mows our yard every other week.

- Bugs. They are larger, louder, weirder, and more plentiful than anywhere else I've been. Fireflies, cicadas, ants, beetles. The ants here are huge, 1/3 to 1/2 inch, and they bite. Oh yeah, the flies bite too.

- New Jerseyans don't like New Yorkers. And vice versa. It's similar to the Idaho/Oregon & California relationship. Can't I just live in a state that everyone gets along?

- Speaking of Idaho, nobody here really knows where it is. And they confuse it with Ohio and Iowa. It's Idahiowa. I guess I can't complain about this too much considering I'm still learning the states that border New Jersey. (Delaware to the south, New York to the north and east, Pennsylvania to the west).

- You never pump your own gas here. It's all full serve.

- Many New Jerseyans (well, maybe New Yorkers and some Pennsylvanians too) have a very gruff and direct way of speaking that can almost be taken as overbearing or rude but I'm realizing that it's just the way they are here. It's nothing personal, that's just how they are.

- Celebrities around here: Both Jon Bon Jovi & Bruce Springsteen live near here and have kids that go to the private school near our house. Oh, and I just missed Deborah Harry (AKA Blondie) at the hardware store down the street. I was buying paint and the two women in line behind me were giddy with excitement. Apparently they approached her to say hello and said she was very friendly and personable.

- Overall, I think New Jersey gets a pretty bad rap. Someone said it's the armpit of New York, people think of congestion, traffic, pollution, huge smokestacked factories, horrible crime, etc. Maybe it seems better because I was expecting all of that but I must say I am pleasantly surprised. It's a pretty bad area right near the Newark airport. People fly in and think all of New Jersey is like that. It is actually very green here, so many trees and rolling green lawns and yards. There is a lot of property on each lot. Most houses have large yards. There are horses, stables, long trails to walk, orchards, and farms. Yes, farms! The public park system is fabulous here and everything is so well maintained. We are in the Garden State and it is appropriately named. By the way, did you know NJ is the 3rd largest producer of cranberries? It's the 6th largest in lettuce and 7th largest of fresh market tomatoes. Who would have known?

As much as we are enjoying it for now, I don't think this is 'home'. I'm thinking of this all as an adventure and it's nice to get to know this side of the United States but my heart will always be in California. Since the kids are still young and not in school I don't mind touring the U.S. via Nick's employment although I do hope to be a Californian again sometime in the future.

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Wednesday, September 19, 2007

Slideshow

Here is a little slideshow I've created with some random pictures

Saturday, September 15, 2007

24 hour vacation in Cherry Hill

Nick had to be in Cherry Hill, NJ at 7am on Friday so his company put him up in a hotel there on Thursday night so he wouldn't need to drive the 75 miles at the crack of dawn. We tagged along for a little change of scenery. We stayed at the Crowne Plaza which was right on the Delaware River and we had a beautiful view of the Philadelphia skyline from our room on the 11th floor. We arrived at around 7pm, enough time for dinner then returned to the hotel. Andrew was so excited to check out the hotel room. I noticed a little routine he has when we were staying at all the hotels on our cross country drive. He checks out the phone, picks up the receiver and says "haooo"? (hello), then turns on whatever clock radio is there, then wants the tv turned on. The next day Nick went to his meeting bright and early and the kids and I checked out of the hotel then walked around some of the shops in the area. I really liked the area. The residential areas had nice older homes with a lot of personality, the streets were lush with trees and greenery. I think we'll go along with him on his next visit.

I think I mentioned awhile back that I met another mom of 2 that has also just relocated to NJ. Her husband is in the army and they transferred to Fort Monmouth from Fort Hood in Texas. We meet up at a nearby park 2-3 days a week with the kids in their strollers and go for a brisk 2 mile walk. It's definitely a motivator when you have a walking buddy. At the end of the walk we let the kids play on the playground. I have also joined the local MOMS Club and they have lots of fun social get togethers for the moms and their kids. We'll be going to a playgroup next Tuesday and Thursday we'll check out the storytime at the library. It's funny to think, just a mere three years ago we were looking forward to happy hour after work, or the a big party to go to on Friday night. Now I'm excited for pajama storytime at the local library. I promise myself that once again we will be social, party-going, movie-seeing, spontaneous-traveling adults once the kids are just a bit older and can be left with grandma for longer periods.

Other tidbits - Nick now has glasses! He had his eyes checked because he felt he wasn't seeing as clearly and lo and behold they recommended glasses. He's been wearing them about 75% of the time and says he seeing things he didn't even know he couldn't see, if that makes any sense. He sure looks like his brother Noah now! He also has been quite busy with a few side projects with his consulting business and....stay tuned....he may be working part-time as a paramedic again in addition to everything else. He's been missing his work in EMS so that will be some excitement for him.
Andrew's word of the week is "boo" He says it and points to the moon, balloons, and the color blue so who knows if he really understands.
Lauren is still toothless but I swear, any time now. I've been saying that for months though. Andrew got his first tooth at 8 months 1 week and she just turned 8 months yesterday. She is very close to crawling. She is able to get up on her hands and knees but instead of going forward, she scoots backwards, moving away from her intended target. Very frustrating to say the least!
I've have recently created a Myspace page and feel completely inept compared to all these teenagers who have pimped out their page with graphics. I'm lucky that I figured out how to get a picture and a song on there. (It wasn't easy) Anyway, if you're on myspace be sure to look me up add me as your friend.